We admire virtuous, strong, intelligent, creative, personable, and successful people. We praise people for their curiosity, energy, emotional maturity, honesty, independence, initiative and their ability to debate and effectively communicate. However, often we correct our children for their curiosity, energy, emotionality, honesty, independence, initiative and inclination to debate, though they are the same qualities we love in adults. Those qualities in children need reinforcement, not punishment; direction, not correction.